A few ideas to stay relaxed whilst on the road.

A great cause of stress in day to day life can come about whilst driving a car. Most of us have to drive in order to get to work and be with family and friends. Yet this necessary activity does not need to be a source of stress; rather a chance to enjoy the ride and relax. Here below, can I share with you; ten ideas of driving to relax:

1. Combining journeys

Consider how many errands you can combine in one journey. For example: go shopping on the way home from work; book appointments in town on the same day; arrange to visit far away friends and family on the same day; give a lift to a neighbour going the same way.

If you have to use your car and drive; then try and combine as many journeys as possible. Not only are you saving time; you saving fuel, the environment and reducing your risks of becoming stressed whilst out on the road.

2. Allow time and plan your journey

Do not put yourself under pressure; by leaving the house too late and trying to make up by speeding to your destination. If you are driving on unfamiliar roads or to a faraway destination; check traffic reports and plan your journey to avoid traffic jams and roadworks. The AA have a great website; here is a link: https://www.theaa.com/route-planner/route

If you are just driving the regular commute to work or to the next town to see family and friends; why leave late and rush? It is kind of paradoxical; that the more organised and prepared we become, the more time we are actually relaxed. This is because nothing comes as a shock in our schedule.

3. Clean and declutter your car and windscreen

Keep your car clean; especially the windscreen. This is because our peripheral vision notices movement; so take down those air fresheners.

In addition try and keep the windscreen; both inside and out clean. This is because our eyes are constantly focusing on different objects whilst we are driving to be aware of possible threats to our safety. Therefore, help yourself; by cleaning off grime and bugs from the windscreen. If you have cracks in your windscreen; get it replaced as soon as possible. Normally, your car insurance will cover the cost. If the windows are misted up or icy; be patient and let them clear. As the saying goes: “a stitch in time; saves nine”.

4. You are the captain of your ship

If you are carrying passengers be aware of their character and consider how it could affect your ability to drive safely and stay relaxed. Screaming children, crying babies, screaming and crying partners, ‘backseat’ drivers, drunk friends, chatty neighbours; mentally prepare before you set off in the car with them.

Although, you don’t want to come across as a begrudging driver; you are in charge of your car and everyone within it. Like the captain of a ship; if anything happens, you will be held responsible, so be firm yet positive with your passengers. Some passengers, such as children; are simply not aware of how their behaviour can affect your ability to drive in a safe and relaxed manner. So make sure they are in a good mood before you set off; make sure they are fed and watered and have a book or toy to play with. When they inevitably demand to go the toilet in the middle of a freeway; calmly tell them you will pull over as soon as possible. Bring spare clothes and wet wipes for children; so if they cannot hold on, they can freshen up when you are finally able to stop.

5. Let the music play but your way

Personally as a professional truck driver, I drive in silence; without any music or radio. I am listening to the sounds of the engine to gauge engine speed and for outside hazards.

If you do feel the need to play music whilst driving; consider the tempo or speed of the song. Studies have shown that playing music with a beat faster than your heart rate; will subconsciously cause you to speed up and possibly drive in a reckless manner.

Consider, playing classical music to inspire you as you drive through rolling rural landscapes. Try to play happy and upbeat songs; that will cause your body to release serotonin and heighten your senses. Try to avoid to sad or aggressive music that may cause you to dwell on unpleasant thoughts or experiences which may cause you to loose concentration. Try listening to: podcasts, audio-books or a interesting programme on BBC Radio 4 (92-95 FM or 198 long wave).

Yet always be aware of your surroundings; especially approaching emergency vehicles trying to pass you.

6. Read the road and pay it forward

Most road hazards give you warning signs before they develop. Read the road like a developing story and prepare to give way.

A slow moving car in front of you; may mean the driver is looking for an address and may suddenly turn off. Mud on the road; may mean there is a slow moving tractor after a blind bend. Lots of mums walking along the street in mid afternoon; may mean school has finished and children may run out in the road. Look for the signs, that will prepare you; leaving you ready but relaxed.

In addition, never think that you are in a race with other road users. If someone cuts you up; let them go, they are safer in front of you. If someone is waiting patiently to pull out of a side road; let them out if you will not hold up other road users and cause an accident. If a slow lorry is trying to reverse across a road to park; stop and give them the space they need. Pay the love forward and hopefully someone will repay the favour later on.

7. No need for speed

Driving faster than necessary will not get you much further up the road; yet will open you up to risks, fines and avoidable stress.

Most car journeys we make are locally; to work, the shops and family. On these short journeys; speeding will only get there a few minutes quicker at most! For example: driving ten miles at 35 mph instead of 30 mph; will only get you to your destination three minutes earlier. So consider what you will do in those three minutes. Are they worth a speeding ticket? Are they worth risking an accident? Are they worth the extra stress?

8. Pull over

A major cause of stress whilst driving is caused by someone following you too closely; causing you to focus on them and not the road ahead.

So your ego and your self righteousness is telling you to not give in. You want to maintain your sense of self respect; you start to feel anger and malice. You may even in consider driving slower just to spite them. Well quite literally; stop this thinking this way. Instead, consider turning down your rear view mirror. If your wing mirrors are adjustable; then turn them down too. If they are not adjustable; open the window and pull in the wing mirror on the drivers side. This way you can concentrate on the road ahead; without seeing movement in your peripheral vision by way of the mirrors.

If the driver behind you seems aggressive or just too close then consider pulling over when it is safe to do so. If there are no laybys; when you are on a straight stretch of road, indicate to the nearside and pull to the side. This way the driver behind you can safely pass. Trust me, with the danger in front of you; you will soon feel relaxed again.

9. Safe space

Imagine the distance between you and the vehicle in front belongs to you. Simply by slowing down and maintaining a gap; gives you more time to deal with hazards. Remember the old adage: “only a fool breaks the two second rule”. Wait for the car in front to pass a marker; then count two seconds. If you pass the same marker before two seconds you are too close.

The more space and time you give yourself to react to hazards; not only makes you safer but more relaxed. From seeing traffic slowing up ahead to sudden braking; by creating a safe space, you are giving yourself time to think and when you do not have to think quickly, you will only be relaxed.

10. Feeling tired, upset, unwell, under the influence, going blind?

Would you walk a tightrope whilst drunk? Would you try running whilst tired? Would you chop vegetables whilst crying so much you cannot see? Would you go to work feeling so weak and unwell you cannot even stand up? Would you speed along a motorway in thick fog?

Well why get in a car whilst feeling this way? A car does not look like a knife; yet it can kill just as well. Treat driving as a privilege and not a right. Yes you have passed the test and paid for a car; yet that does not mean your need to drive is more important than anyone else. If you do not feel well for any reason; do not drive. If anyone is pressurising you to drive; then tell them to catch the bus and then say goodbye, for you do not need these people in your life.

Therefore, most of us need to drive to work and other commitments that we put upon ourselves. Yet never let driving be a source of stress. You cannot control other drivers; yet by anticipating and being prepared we can allow for mistakes.

Ideally, to be completely relaxed; try to aim for a life without need of a motor car. Tibetan monks, Eskimo, Namibian herdsmen; it is possible to live a complete and satisfying life without the wheel!

Drive safe, drive with care, drive to relax.

‘You are what you eat’ as the saying goes; so if you want to eat and relax, then check out these ten foods that can help.

Believe it or not; our moods, feelings and ability to stay calm are all affected by the food that we consume. There are times when you need more calories and sugars to be able to complete a long bike ride or keep warm on a cold day. Yet by giving a little consideration to our food; our bodies will take care of the rest. Personally, I try to stay relaxed all day long even when working hard. So I have researched and now eat food to relax.

Please bear in mind I am not a qualified nutritionist; just a guy who has read and researched the subject. Neither am I mother hen; so go forth and find your own food in your own good time. The food items listed below are all inexpensive and healthy; so please consider them if you are not already doing so, bon appetit:

1. Apple

There is an old saying that goes: “An apple a day keeps the doctor away”.

Well an apple can also keep stress away too because of naturally occurring chemicals. These chemicals would normally help the apple survive harsh weather and attacks from insects and birds. These same chemicals have an anti-depressant effect on humans; as well as slowly releasing energy to keep your spirits up. Apples are also a good source of potassium; which helps your nervous system.

2. Bananas

Monkeys always seem happy and maybe that is because they eat lots of bananas!

Bananas are good food in so many ways! First they are high in natural sugar that will keep you focused and not grumpy. They are high in potassium too; so will help the nerves. They also contain Vitamin B6 and tryptophan; which convert to serotonin in the human body. With serotonin being the chemical that is thought to regulate mood.

3. Lemon

Don’t be bitter; have a lemon! Well you can mix lemon juice with water and it goes down easy!

For a start, a lemon contains high levels of Vitamin C; which will improve your immune system and stop you feeling low in the first place. If you do become stressed your body will produce a chemical called: Cortisol. Cortisol is produced to increase energy levels so you can deal with a stressful situation. For example: running away from a dangerous animal. However, too much Cortisol in your body will cause you to feel irritable. The Vitamin C in lemon will suppress the release of Cortisol.

4. Honey

Honey is a sweet healthy treat! On toast, or porridge, in coffee or tea; try and get honey into your diet every day.

Honey contains very high levels of tryptophan; that amino acid that turns into serotonin to make you feel happy and melatonin to help you feel relaxed. Personally I put a spoonful in my morning coffee. Yet you can try it with many foods anytime of day. If you forget; have a spoonful but no double dipping!

5. Eggs

Don’t become ‘eggacerbated’; become ‘eggstra’ relaxed eating eggs.

By eating eggs in the morning; you feel more full because of their high protein content. This means hunger pains will not affect your daily activities. On top of this eggs contain a chemical called: Choline. This chemical is essential for the body to produce another chemical called: Acetylcholine; which regulates parts of the brain that deal with stress and mood. It does not stop there; eggs are also high in Vitamin D which helps deal with anxiety and depression.

6. Porridge or Oatmeal

Be as stoic as a Quaker by eating porridge for breakfast or maybe later!

Porridge or Oatmeal in American; is a simple yet stress busting meal anytime of the day. For a start, it is warm and soothing; especially when made with milk. Then with milk it is a great source of tryptophan; remember, that chemical that converts into serotonin to help regulate moods. In addition, oatmeal is a great source of melatonin; which help us to relax and sleep. Furthermore, oats are high in calcium and magnesium; two minerals that help the body to function, repair and relax!

Top tip: If you are running late and do not have time to make porridge; try preparing flapjacks the night before.

7. Celery

Hippocrates, the Greek doctor dude from 2,000 years ago; said that one should eat celery to calm the nerves!

Yes, that often over looked vegetable celery; is a great secret weapon to relax. Studies have shown that eating celery can lower blood pressure in the body. In addition, celery can help create white blood cells; which help fight off disease and infections. Celery also contains a natural chemical called: Phthalides. This chemical helps the liver detoxify the blood; thus improving blood flow to the brain and nervous system.

Top tip: to get the most out of celery; it is best eaten raw because many of its benefits are lost in the cooking process. So, chewing on a few sticks with a sprinkling of sea salt; is a great way to relax and build an appetite before a healthy meal.

8. Oily tinned fish: mackerel, sardines, salmon, anchovies…

Have a fishy on your dishy and feel all warm, relaxed and squishy!

Love or hate them; oily tinned fish are a frugal and fantastically healthy meal. Eat them cold straight out the tin; on toast, in a salad, or even a paella, yet just eat them! Why? Well they are rich in a good polyunsaturated fatty acid called: Omega-3. This acid has been proven to reduce inflammation of the blood system and reduce the risk of heart disease. So like a rocket ship on high octane fuel; we will be operating on full power throughout the day. Then if we have had a good day; we are more likely to stay relaxed and happy as well. Studies have also found that patients suffering from anxiety and depression have very low levels of Omega-3.

Top tip: aim to have oily fish at least twice a week.

9. Cherries

Live life, eat, drink, sleep, breathe, laugh and cry, learn, turn, run and relax; do more, yet always do it with a cherry on top!

Eat cherries as often as possible and stay merry!

These little red beauties are an amazing present from mother nature. For a start, they are one of the few sources of melatonin; the chemical that regulates are body clock and enables us to get a goods nights sleep! Studies have shown that by eating cherries or drinking cherry juice on a daily basis; improves the length and quality of your sleep. So if you are sleeping well you will be well awake too!
Also, they are a great source of: Vitamins B and C, potassium, copper and manganese! Which all help our blood and nervous systems.
Wow, so much in such a little package!

Top tip: try to eat raw dark cherries instead of sweet glazed cherries

10. Turmeric

This nice spice comes from a flowering plant in the ginger family. Normally sprinkled over a curry to give it flavour and colour; it also gives you a whole lot more!

Used in Asian cuisine since time immemorial; turmeric is one of mother natures natural medicines. Turmeric contains a compound chemical called: Curcumin; which is proven to have antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties. With antioxidant meaning it reduces the risk of infections as well as ageing! Anti-inflammatory meaning it helps the body deal with harmful stimuli.

In addition, studies have shown that Curcumin is a natural anti-depressant. With one study even showing that it is effective as Prozac! Adrian Lorpresti of Murdoch University, Australia; states that: Curcumin improves pathways in the brain that deal with anxiety and depression. It also reduces stress hormones; such as: cortisol.

However, there have been reports that turmeric can contain high levels of lead. This is because the regions where it is grown in Bangladesh; are susceptible to heavy rain. This heavy rain causes Turmeric to lose its bright colour; which detracts from its use to colour food. So yes, in this crazy world; some people are risking lead poisoning for the sake of pretty colourful food!

Top tip:always use pepper with turmeric; because compounds in pepper enable you to get the best out of turmeric. Also to get the real benefits of turmeric try taking a Curcumin supplement; as a little sprinkle on your midweek curry will not be enough to enjoy its benefits.

So there you have it; get in the kitchen and get cooking. Do not take my word for it; do your own research and enjoy what you eat. Eat well and eat to be healthy, happy and relaxed.

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